Frequently
Asked Questions ? (be
warned I do go on a bit but some relevant questions asked
and hopefully answered, if not then by all means E mail
me!)
I will
be unavailable for appts. from
22nd Dec 2008
to 6th Jan 2009 and 12th Feb - 24th Feb 2009. |
Just
a little note for me:-
I
have noticed that there are some people who seem to use
their own names as their E mail address, please think about
this very seriously if you don't want any vanilla people
to find you, it is far safer to have a pseudonym set up,
once in contact with anyone you can then give them your
name when you know it is safe to do so and you trust the
person, remember there are a lot of unscrupulous people
out there plus if you are avidly posting on chat sites,
forums or even doing reviews on sites people will find
your name by just typing it into google. Also when signing
into secure sites, members areas, shops etc; always use
letters and figures these are harder for hackers to suss
out, try not to use your name as passwords or usernames,
if you do add figures at the front and back. Do not think
that typing your own name backwards thwarts them as this
is the first option they will take. Think carefully about
it and use something that no-one would associate with you
that way vanilla people will not stumble on you by accident.
That's all for my lecture <grins> You can continue
to read my F.A.Q s now ! ALSO
people using work computers to send me E mails...REMEMBER
I reply to that address and it is very stupid to E mail
me using an E mail address that has your company name at
the end of it.
Q)
How can I pay for the session?
A) You can pay cash up on arrival. Cheque with supported
bankers card, credit cards but these are subject to an extra charge of 10%
handling fee.
My
time is £100.00 for one hour and £190.00 for
two hours, you
may of course wish to spend the day in the company of Miss incorporating spanking/C.P
sessions, this would be from *9.30am
- 2.30pm for £400.00. Do
bear in mind my time is as precious as your own but I do sit and chat with
you prior to our session taking place.
THERE ARE NO "EXTRAS" so
DO NOT be impertinent by asking!!!! IF YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND THIS THEN DO
NOT BOTHER TO BOOK AN APPOINTMENT..AS STATED SEVERAL TIMES I OFFER SPANKING/C.P
SERVICES .....NOTHING ELSE!
Q)
Why don't you bottom anymore?
A) I do still bottom for MY own production company (& one other) for
photos and film shoots,
BUT NOT ON 1-2-1's SO please do not ask, infer or
offend!! This
is due to lack of respect and people thinking my bottom can be used for
target practice, I will say now I
enjoy
a spanking
but
not
when
someone
thinks
they have to start by swinging an arm right back and shoving my pelvic
bone into my chest! Hence my decision to cease offering
this service not only that but as I said I feel I am more of a Top now
with the knowledge of being a bottom behind me (no pun intended lol),
a little insight would be in Emails I receive;- I read them naturally but
there are certain keywords and phrases
that one uses which tells me straightaway people are sincere and genuine.
For me an OTK spanking is the best possible position where the spanking
starts off gentle from one side to the other (gawd, I hate one sided spankers)
this
can then be built up to a happy medium without going OTT and numbing the
bottom
before you have even warmed up!

Figure 4. The blue areas show the "prohibited zones": the kidney
(K), the coccyx (C) and the genital (G) area. The orange areas indicate where
spanking is safe. The lower half of each buttock (the "sit spot",
just above the place where the thigh and the bottom meets, shown in pink)
is particularly suitable for spanking. The drawing on the right illustrates
how
to find the recommended area: keep about one inch (3 cm) lower than the top
of the crack. Never spank higher than that.
Q) I noticed on one of your pages that your
pet hate is people not giving their name, do you have any more we
should know about lol?
A) <smiles> Of course I do..don't you? One of mine
is attempting to be in role when affirming contact via telephone/E
mail at this point I am
a real person who is equal to you, if you can't show me some respect during
our conversation then don't expect to come to see me, as I have said before
manners
and civility cost nothing, another one whilst we are on the subject of names
my name is
M I S
S S H A N E L L E (note only one N, two L's, no C. GET
IT RIGHT!!). I also don't like talking to people who obviously have an inability
to read,
by
this
I mean
people
sending
an E
mail
without having read my site fully as it states on nearly every page, plus
texting/telephoning outside the hours specified, it just saves us both time.
A couple more are; I
hate dishonesty in any form - lies always have a way of catching
you
up, people
who
steal
my
material
without asking, any company who pirates DVDs or Video, sites that
set themselves up alleging to be into the scene but rip off material
and then charge people per view and blatant plagiarism of anything
off any of my websites, if people can't come up with their own
ideas and views then they shouldn't set up a website which they
obviously
have no idea about before stealing from other people!! Also alleged
scene people who think it is a good idea to discourage others for
having a scene related website/photos/clips/adverts/groups/forums
on line, my personal opinion with this is if you think you can
do better then go ahead but do not denigrate real scene people
especially
those who have taken a step forward to give something back to our
small genuine community! I have now started to put a watermark
right through my photographs this is because people feel a need
to steal
them and put elsewhere without the common decency to ask prior
or to add a link back to my site, I apologise if this distorts
the image
but you can thank these uncaring pilferers who profess to be into
the scene yet don't have the manners to support it!! I
also hate those photos were it is so blatantly a "glamour model"
who has
no idea what she is doing within the scene or indeed whether it
is dangerous to the bottom, don't much like it when you see those
photos from pro-spankos but their faces are distorted
out or
you
only see their bottom half ... I mean what is the point of doing
something you enjoy, offering a service but then don't show your
face surely that's the part a prospective bottom wants to be able
to see.
Q)
Do you offer double sessions (or Double Topping) with another female
Top?
A) This can be arranged with prior notice but bear in mind you will
need to pay for her time, my time and any travel expenses incurred
for both parties, also note I only TOP so do not
think just because I am visiting another lady I will go over your knee and don't
be impertinent by asking as you may be offended by the retort!!! PLEASE note
I do not actually have a female hidden under my desk that I can just pop out
when requested (if only!!), nor do any of the females in my clips/photos live
close by, they are hired by myself to appear with me and travel great distances.
If you would like a double session it has to be arranged months in advance and
may not take place where I live, plus to be beneficial to both females we organize
it so that a we can see a few people who have asked us, hence due to the amount
of requests you may find these type of sessions fully booked. We do ask for a
*50% deposit (£100 leaving £100 to pay on the day for an hour) of
total session time to confirm your booking once dates, times and place have been
sorted
out. I do have a running list of people who have shown an interest and wish to
be notified once organized, if you would like to be added to this list then
please Email any relevant details to me,
you in turn will be notified of dates once arranged, then if convenient and you
pay your deposit we
will book you in.
Q)
What is the lead time for an appointment?
A) Normally one-two weeks, as I get booked up in advance very quickly.
However, there may be ocassions when someone has cancelled but
I don't do same day appointments.
So it is always worth a try if you have a date in mind for a few days ahead
.... O and just one other thing if telephoning (that is if you have my new
number, to book an appointment; REMEMBER I WILL ONLY ANSWER BETWEEN 10am
- 4pm WEEKDAYS if I am available, (for
those of you
who can not
understand this, I mean Monday - Friday definitely not EVENINGS, SATURDAYS
or SUNDAYS! My phone is switched off) Remember TO TELL ME WHO YOU
ARE ...it really
is one of my pet hates, seriously
I hate it
when the phone rings and I get "Hello, Miss Shanelle ...can I book
an appointment for this afternoon"....with no mention of whom I am
speaking to, that is very bad manners.. grrr!! Also bear in mind my hours
are cut considerably
during school holidays. I prefer people to E
mail upon first contacting me
so that you can give me details of the type of session you are looking for.
Please do not send me War & Peace on what you want/fantasise
about, as I don't have the time to reply to lengthy E mails nor the inclination
to be "wank fodder" for you, you will be sent a list
of
my available
dates
so that you can choose a convenient one, we always chat prior
to your session anyway so anything you feel is important will be discussed
then.
| Dates I am unavailable for Appointments 2008/2009:- |
| December - 22nd - 6th Jan 09 |
| February - 12th - 24th 09 |
| April - 6th - 20th 09 |
| May - 25th - 29th 09 |
Q)
Is that you in the photos?
A) Well, if it ain't I have exploited someone constantly haven't I LOL
OF COURSE it's is, as stated previously in my site, I expect honesty, trust,
respect and discretion so I am hardly likely to put pictures on my own site
that aren't me and at least you do get to see my face...
if you visit you would know straight away wouldn't you !!
Q)
I have E mailed and telephoned but get no response?
A) Please understand that I take appointments throughout the
day, I am not
sat behind a computer screen 24/7 waiting for you to E
mail;
as
a
rule
I
don't log on until after 9.30pm most evenings as I have family life that comes
before
this,
at which point I read and reply to most E mails (do bear in mind that I have
a lot of E mails each day), if you do not hear anything from me within 3 days
then please use one of my other E mail contacts found in the "Contacts" page
or check your spam folder. If you are telephoning and I don't answer then I am
obviously
busy
with
an
appointment
also it is sometimes inconvenient for me to talk ESPECIALLY IN THE EVENINGS hence
why it states 10am -4pm!!
I
will
not
answer
when
I have anyone here as I think it is impolite and rude to do so. I will NOT answer
calls after 4pm, weekends or bank holidays. You may on occasion get a male voice
answering (he is my secretary LOL) no seriously that will be my husband who may
answer if I am busy, please talk to him he doesn't bite (well, not much <sniggers>)
I will not answer any WITHHELD or UNKNOWN caller numbers. I MOST CERTAINLY DO
NOT CALL ANYONE after 4pm so please do not ask as I have stated times many times
the
best form of contact is via E mail.
Also
note
if
you
have booked on two consecutive occasions and cancelled, DO NOT bother trying
again,
I will not waste my time on someone who can not keep appointments. I do not answer
text messages at all please respect this, which is why I prefer you to E mail
then our conversation can not be over heard by anyone! Please also bear in mind
that I run all my own websites myself therefore have to spend the time keeping
them updated, adding clips & photos plus doing
shoots, so you may not get a reply straight away.
With this in mind if you have booked an appointment then you are obviously coming
to see me, please don't waste my time asking silly questions on E mails that
are either answered on this site if you look or that I can answer when we meet
face to face, if you keep sending E mails constantly asking irrelevant questions
I will deem you to be wasting my precious time and cancel your appointment, the
same applies to people who E mail over a period of time, book appointments that
they then cancel...DO YOU ACTUALLY think I have nothing better to do than keeping
replying to you when it is so obvious you have no intention of visiting if you
insist on doing this I will add your name to my blocked E mails plus inform other
professional ladies.
Q) Why has your
site gone to a members area?
A) I apologise for this but because of the increase in hosting fees, bandwidth
charges etc: I can no longer afford the rising costs to show my photographs
for FREE, you may thank your fellow human beings, the ones who just log on
to view/steal the free pictures! I am sorry to the people who legitimately
came on because they are genuinely into the spanking scene and respect anyone
who attempts to give a bit of themselves back to the small community that we
are. What I offer on top of this is the chance to visit me and have a session
for real, just to prove I am really into the scene. I also have another site www.spanxproductions.com which
is a members site and shows more with other players (downloadable clips & Photo
sets) though naturally you will see an infliction of all orientations as I
hate labelling! I have also still got a few sites which are FREE and you can
view a few photographs & clips, these can be located in my links section.
Q) Do
you offer sexual relief? (this
is not here for the sake of it, IT IS FACT!)
A) NO, not at all. I like to offer a safe and consensual environment
where both parties are clear on the boundaries of spanking/C.P play. Not
only that I am a happily married woman and would not dream
of being unfaithful to my husband. Nor do I enjoy a session where a sexual
connotation is brought into the scenario. i.e you were caught in a compromising
situation or I caught you masturbating! Please DO NOT offend
me by asking or trying your luck as I may offend you with my retort!
Obviously
some people have an inability to read so I will reiterate this "I DO NOT
AND WILL NOT HAVE SEXUAL INTERCOURSE WITH YOU NOR ALLOW YOU TO MASTURBATE" and
no amount of money will persuade me so please do not waste my time and your
own
time
in
asking. There are females out there who do offer this kind of service please
seek it from them.
Q)
Can I relieve myself in your bathroom/bed room/in a condom?
A) As this is my family home, I do not think it is appropriate behaviour as
stated above. Not only that but MY bedroom is my personal sanctuary you will
not be allowed to play in there under any circumstances.
Q) Do you have any implements?
A) As I do this for a living, I have a wide range of quality implements, including
my hand! From paddles, straps, tawses, rulers, crops, canes (these are rattan,
kooboo and dragon all of varying diameters & lengths), slippers (over 55
pairs), hairbrushes; infact far too many to mention, to date I have
over 200
different implements
in my possession (all are lovingly cared for), so perhaps I should insure them,
alot of them actually appear in my DVD "Ouch Factor" so you can see
them in action too! I also have an old wrought iron school desk, spanking bench,
straight
back chair,
buck horse and vaulting horse (though the latter two are in situ at the moment!)
IF you have any implements or furniture you wish to bring with you for me to
use then by all means ask, I will expect them to be in pristine condition though!
Whips, floggers, cats and flays in my mind are part of BDSM so please don't
ask for
any of these
implements. I
reserve the right to refuse anyone who does not respect my boundaries, without
explanation.
Q) Can I visit the ladies shown in your clips/photos?
A) Some of the ladies featured offer a 1-2-1 service their links can be found
in my Links Section, others do not offer this service
at all just enjoy the shoots/filming. I AM not the oracle so please use
your
own head
and
do not bother asking me about other ladies whom I have employed for my shoots
when
I
already display
the one's who offer 1-2-1's
banners
for
your
perusal anyway!
Q) I notice it says you don't do nudity but
does this mean I leave my pants on?
A) No, the pants can be lowered to knees, ankles or removed completely, by
no nudity I mean the top part is always covered by shirt etc: For me this scene
has nothing to do with naked bodies, pornography or viewing any other part
of your anatomy other than your bottom, not only that full nudity can be misconstrued
as a lewd act. I particularly hate guys who think their
penis is held in high regard and send me photos of it, please don't bother
they will just be deleted as will your E mail, I have no inclination to even
view such photos and it is such an ugly part of a body!
Q) How hard/severe do you give it?
A) I am not out to hurt or injure anyone, I respect you as a person therefore
I do not want to draw blood or leave lasting marks/bruising that may be questionable
to your partner, how hard and what implements are used on you are down to what you want
at the time of our session this is why we sit and chat prior. On saying
that I can leave marks but that is with your discretion but not to the extent
of drawing blood. I like to hope I have got your head into it and that a deserved
spanking will add to your fantasy. I am not a sadist and am not intent on causing
anybody great amounts of pain that is not what it is about, if you are requiring
this may I respectfully suggest you look elsewhere. In the same vein I also
hate the use of words such as beating, these depict severity and
that is not what I am doing, I am simply administering a punishment. If you
want to be severley beaten then I suggest you find a suitable boxing club.
Q)
I want to be spanked/caned until I cry?
A) This is a question I get asked frequently and my first answer
would be to
ask "is it your first spanking?" Then
my next answer would be;- it won't happen, due to you having it in your head
and your head being all powerful you will instantly challenge yourself, in that
your
brain
will be saying "I am not going to cry, I am brave...do it as hard as you like!" You
can't stop this action because you have asked the question already therefore
are expecting it to hurt so psych yourself up for it and fight against it. The
idea is to get your head completely into the role that way you can let yourself
go and become the person who is being told off and deserves a spanking. If you
are used to receiving a spanking then no matter who or how hard it is you will
never be reduced to tears unless the person administering has a knowledge of
you personally and your traits then they can use these against you during the
role play session in a hope they can get through to you to induce tears. Besides
which if you want to be reduced to tears I wouldn't
be spanking very long as it would have to be done straight
away with no warm up and personally I prefer to warm a bottom
up as I enjoy over the knee spankings <grins>
Q)
I can get to a train/bus station do you offer transport from
here?
A) I will collect you from the train station but due to the
rising cost of
petrol,
insurance,
tax, wear & tear on my car plus my time, travelling 4 journeys; I will now
be
charging £20 on top of your session
fee. This is due to some people thinking this is part of the service without
any thoughts
for the above mentioned and abusing the service which is offered on this site. *Please
let me know when you are on your way so
that I do not make a wasted journey, I will only wait 30 mins at any station
if
your
train
hasn't arrived by then and you haven't let me know of the delay then I will leave
but
there
are
taxi
ranks outside!
Q) I am new to giving but would like
to try; can you give me any advice?
A) We are all new to it at some stage, as I state further down.
To be honest I prefer people who have at least tried it themselves
so know what it feels
like, this gives you a good idea on how the bottom feels in this position.
All bottoms are entirely different on what they can take implement wise so
treat each one as an individual (every bottom
accepts spanking/C.P differently), go easy and build up, everyone
and I mean everyone hates someone who starts out hard, it ruins the session
plus the mutual enjoyment is lost due to it numbing the bottom, therefore,
nothing is felt PLUS this is very dangerous if the Top isn't paying attention
because this is when bruising and marks appear, so please be aware. Also
you need to pay attention to where your slaps, smacks or strokes are landing
(unless
the bottom specifies otherwise) you should stick to the area in the middle
of the bottom, never go above the coccyx this is too high and you shouldn't
use downward strokes with anything at this point either, I personally hate
anyone using downward strokes with anything anyway it doesn't feel right
and is very annoying when it hits the top of your bottom bone constantly.
The other
factor is how the bottom is positioned i.e. over the knee is a great position
the bottom is nicely relaxed (unless they tense it up) it has what I call
a rebound wobble when you spank it correctly, however, bent over puts a whole
new perspective on it, the bottom is a little more taut and then to bend
and
touch your toes totally tightens all the muscles up thus making it easier
to bruise, mark and sometimes cut, so ensure you use the implements with
care.
Try not to go too far round the sides this is called wrapping and is extremely
painful. In my opinion any implement over 6" in length should be used
across both bottom cheeks, to attempt to use it on either cheek will result
in 1) it hitting the bone in the centre of the bottom 2) wrap
on the opposite cheek. Think of a 4 strap suspender belt and how it frames
a bottom, this helps to keep in target, a couple of inches lower than where
it fastens at the waist and not past the side straps and above the thighs
of course, in essence aim for the roundness of the under cheeks. All that
is really
needed is a little care and attention, ask the person with whom you are playing
if it is okay, they aren't going to snap your head off, I am sure they would
rather feel safe and trusting than be marked for weeks. Also be aware of
dangers as a Top ensure the bottom is ok throughout, I don't like playing
with anyone
who has been drinking alcohol as this numbs you from pain, as I don't like
playing with anyone who takes drugs or pain killers (this can be aspirin
or paracetamol) all are pain dullers, if a bottom has to take these then
that
is just masochistic and they shouldn't be playing at all because the whole
idea is to revel in the spanking, as a Top you should take control and not
play with any bottom you deem inappropriate to be over your knee.
Q) Do we have to do role play as I am not a
very good actor?
A) Of course we don't. I may use a few keywords so that you
can get your head into why you are deserving of punishment but
I don't expect you to start
reciting any Shakespeare!! (Well, not on the first meeting <ewg>)
Q) I have a role play/scenario that I would
like to carry out is this possible?
A) Yes, BUT and I emphasis this do not send me a "War & Peace" listing
what you would like me to do, how you want it done, where you want it done
etc; I offer this service because I enjoy the scene myself therefore don't
pander to everyone's personal whims just a brief out line will suffice, I
am quite apt at taking the role from there without having to recite
a script besides
if you are wanting it to be as close to reality as possible then the only
way for this to work is through ad libbing the role play. Just
remember one factor,
it is your fantasy which should remain yours, if you try on a first visit
to relive it then it certainly won't happen and you will be left
disappointed
which doesn't help either of us gain a mutual enjoyment. A fantasy is just
that a part of you and what is in your head, it should remain there or you
will then have to keep coming up with new ones ;) plus no-one can get into
your own head to see what you would like to happen (I am many things but
psychic isn't one of them!), I can only go so far with it and attempt
to make it real
for us both for a
couple
of hours in the safety and privacy of my home. Also note I have probably
played out your role play several times with other people, they are all different
due
to
the players
reactions, enactions and punishment but what I don't want is for you to go
into great detail, as doing this for my living plus many years of playing
for real, I can take on the role without your little interventions, in fact
some of my
best
sessions
have
been when
people who say i.e can you play my aunty, can you play HM and then they have
left it with me to take the lead though these have been with people I have
met at least once whom I then understand and where the trust has been built.
YOU will be surprised how often I get asked for the HM role where a report
is
bad; for this reason I have lots of made up reports to support this (also
tests, lines & spellings) or Aunty role and the person is in pyj's/nightie
for their punishment again this is another fantasy of a lot of people. I
suppose what I am trying to say is don't think you are the only one out there
who feels like this, who thinks they have this fantasy to yourself. What
I categorically will not do is have you nude when in role; it really does
not fit with HM or Aunty at all!
Q) What uniforms/outfits do you own?
A) All that are shown in the pictures & all on my DVDs I own,
plus a large wardrobe of other various colours and styles that
are authentic as I believe
detail plays a big part if role playing within a set scenario so if you wish
me to wear one of my outfits I EXPECT you to make the effort and
wear
an outfit
appertaining to the role,
if you don't have one then don't ask REMEMBER it is
about mutual fun and enjoyment first and foremost! For those
who have asked, underneath I wear stockings or hold ups, I
hate
tights but as you shouldn't be looking then you won't be aware anyway.
Please
NOTE
in my capacity as a Top, I will not be nude, wear only my bra and pants or
pull my skirt up so that you can go over my stockinged/petticoated/slip knee
so do not bother asking, in my capacity as the Spanker (hence the person
in
charge)
I do not
believe a Top should be un-dressed or in their underwear. If you require
me to wear anything specific and you can not see it in my photos or I do
not
own it, then if you want it worn you will have to purchase it yourself as
my wardrobe is becoming extensive and the cost considerable to keep purchasing
more items if I don't already own it. Another thing to remember if you are
wanting to have a session where reality to yourself is the key factor bear
in mind it is for me also, so if you want a particular item of clothing worn
then the least I expect is for you to also put some effort into the scenario
i.e. if you want a nurse, I shall expect you to bring pjs, if you want HM
I expect you to bring your uniform, because it helps me
to get my head into the role too (changing clothing throughout a session
is
incorporated
into
your time, so think wisely before asking for too many or specific changes)
I will wear suitable attire to the type of scenario you are wanting this
will be chosen by me as too what I deem the person I am role playing would
wear as such I do request that you also bring along a suitable outfit to
enable the role play to work i.e jeans, t-shirt & trainers do not work
for a school scene/period role. Do remember we both have to be comfortable,
to be able to breath and relax into
the fun
element
of
spanking/C.P. AND you are coming to see me as a spankee to give over control
for an hour or two hence I am the one in charge as I assume this is why you
wish to visit me not so
that
you
can
dictate!
Q) How much time do I get?
A) If you book for an hour (£100)
allow upto two hours, if you book two (£190)
allow upto three hours, you
may of course wish to spend the day in the company of Miss incorporating
spanking/C.P sessions, this would be from *9.30am
- 3pm for £400.00.
I do like to sit and discuss the scene/role play, likes/dislikes
and boundaries
prior
to play, this also helps to alleviate
any
nervousness you may have on your first visit. Note: I dislike people who
E mail then say it is too far
too travel, for myself and others this means nothing, we pursue this scene
because it is something we enjoy therefore distance should not come into
the equation,
I have travelled all over the UK and abroad partaking of spanking fun, I
also have clients who travel from far south, far north, US and Europe so
please
don't use that as an excuse, if you truly are a genuine spanking fan and
wish to have some real life fun then you will make the effort to visit anyone
no
matter the distance or time.
Q) Can I book for half an hour?
A) I am afraid I don't take bookings for 1/2 hours as this
seems pointless to me with reference to my point in the above question,
so don't waste my time
asking for this.
Q) I can't afford the full hour?
A) As stated above I don't do any time less than an hour, please bear
in mind I have a mortgage, bills, family, outgoings like yourself except
I do this
for a living as a proper bona fide company and cannot rely on a monthly income
upon
which
I
can
guarantee
to
cover my bills. This is why I can only do hour appts or above and do not offer
discounts.
Q)
I would like to do a review on your website but need access to the
members area to give an objective view?
A) I don't mind you doing a review as long as you ask my permission prior this
would be common c0urtesy anyway, membership details can be found by clicking
here. It
would be unfair of me to give just anyone who asks login details for nothing
when I have members who quite happily pay to visit my members area. First and
foremost my clients/members are my number one priority not someone wishing
to get ONB (Owt for Nowt) or attempt to gain money out of genuine scene people
via
blackmail
tactics. Don't get me wrong I like to recieve constructive criticsm so long
as you bear in mind I am into the scene and have been for a long time because
I enjoy the fun aspect and decided to share my photographs/clips, myself with
other genuine scene people. I don't have the money that all the other larger
companies have so most definitely class myself as amateur and just find it
rewarding for me personally to offer those who can't do it openly something
to view.
Q)
Is your house discreet/safe?
A) Shall I ask you that same question? I am not a multi millionarie (wish
I was) so I don't own a mansion, my house is detached and surrounded by conifers
which affords us privacy. I use my front room, my dining room and possibly
my kitchen depending on what role we play, these are the only three rooms
that
will be used upon your visit, my home is clean and warm for your comfort.
Please do not ask to be spanked in a bedroom as that is my husbands' and
my own
personal
sanctuary.
As for
discretion
as
stated before I am discreet, I expect the same from you, in this day and
age I am hardly likely to have flashing neon lights advertising what I do
on my
roof. At the end of the day I enjoy the scene, I love meeting and playing
with like minded adults who respect me as much as I respect them, if you
don't want
to come and visit then don't bother wasting my time. My
exact location will only be given upon confirmed booking, again I prefer
to do this via E mail. You can park in front of my house next to the grass
verge, which is where most people leave their vehicles when visiting.
Q) I had to cancel due to personal problems;
will you allow me to re-book?
A) It isn't a problem for me if you can give me enough notice (24
hours is usually courteous), I do understand problems arise at
undue moments BUT please,
please do not make up silly excuses, I believe in honesty so just tell me
the truth rather than some of the futile excuses I hear, do remember I have
probably already heard that one several times!
If you re-book and
cancel this appointment I will then ask for a 75% deposit
if you book a third time. If you fail to arrive for this one then I am afraid
I will class you as
a time waster and I will most definitely
not entertain you again. Think about it, someone else who I know will turn
up and enjoy themselves could use this time and it is not fair on them or
me,
if
you keep
cancelling appointments. ALSO note if you cancel three times, I will notify
other professional ladies of your name & contact details so that they
are not inconvenienced with time wasters.
Q) Can I chat with you on YIM or MSN?
A) I only use YIM on a Thursday nights when I have my chat night with the skoolie_spankings
group, I never log on to it until that evening and I don't reply to
any messages sent, if you want to send an E mail; that will be answered. I
do not
have
MSN
due
to
problems
encountered
a
few
years
ago. I personally don't have the time to chat on any instant messenger service.
Q) How long have you been into the scene?
A) For as long as I can remember, as stated on my "Shanelle" page. It has been
a part of me for years and years, firstly playing privately then with the onset
of the www meeting and playing with others until one person said I should do
it for a living as I hated my job at that time. I hummed and aahhed at this as
I enjoy it but he made such a valid point that I took the step forward leaving
my job to become a professional spanker. I have to tell you, I have never looked
back and am eternally grateful to that person for persuading me <grins>
Q)
I have seen your bottom a few times but what is the tattoo?
A) It is a black panther, this also being the logo on my letterheaded
paper and other stationary items. My husband actually took a photo
of it on my bottom
so that we could use it <grins> It is also his own website name too,
a bit like keeping it in the family.
Q)
What are your favourite implements?
A) Well, bottoms should answer none, "they all hurt!" And
would it not be stupid to actually advise Tops of the fact! When I Top,
I love using my hand, slippers, strap and the cane all at your own
discretion, by far my favourite is over the knee spanking which can be with
my hand, small
OTK paddles, slippers, hairbrush and small strop.
Q) I sometimes have an accident, is this acceptable?
A) NO, as it states on a few pages, NO sexual
gratification/relief or touching, this includes "little accidents". I
do not offer anything of a sexual nature at all, so DO
NOT ask as a smack in the mouth may offend (LOLOL)
Q) What happens if I get an erection when over your knee?
A) I will not be offended if you do, though I do not appreciate
you attempting to rub it against my lap BUT DO NOT think it will last long due
to the fact I will be spanking you and as blood is needed to make your bottom
go red it can't be in two places at once! Most of my visitors control this
aspect and I have to admit to being wary if you ask this question due to it being
a really silly question to ask if you know what is needed for an erection!!
Q) I enjoy food play can I incorporate this
into a session?
A) Again, this is a fetish in it's own right and I personally will not involve
this in role play due to the mess. I also DO NOT incorporate, watersports/golden
showers, any form of scat play, blood play, wet & messy, splosh, spitting,
face sitting or toilet training. There are women out there who offer this service
so please seek this with them. I am fully aware that there are thousands of
fetishes and am not so naive that I pretend they don't exist, I have my personal
fetish which I enjoy as do a lot of people their own it doesn't mean that is
the only fetish in the whole wide world. My motto is try it if you don't enjoy
it, don't do it again simple but you will never know until you have.
Q) I enjoy Bondage; can I incorporate this
into the session?
A) As is also stated on the front page I DO NOT offer a BDSM service, Bondage
being a part of that, I will not restrain/gag/blindfold/flog/whip/flay
or tie you down to receive any implements nor will I engage in CBT or anything
to
do with punishing genitalia so again don't bother asking. If you want
this type of service there are plenty of women who offer it. BDSM/Bondage
is between consenting people who have met previously, discussed and trust each
other. There
is also the health and safety aspect that comes with this. As
it says I offer a Spanking/C.P Service only.
Q) Do you only see males?
A) GAWD No, I also see females, couples, CD's, T-girl's, T.V's,
T.S's in fact all orientations who are genuinely & sincerely into the Spanking/C.P. scene. Please
note I do not offer a cross-dressing service, you can bring along your female
attire and change once here then we will go into role.
Q)
Don't laugh but I am a 60 year old adult schoolboy, do you see people
of this age?
A) I am not laughing at you, it is a reasonable question to ask but my views
are; spanking is a part of you, it always will be and age doesn't come into
it, you enjoy the same scene as myself therefore why should you be deterred
from something you enjoy, everyone ages it is life, it doesn't change the person
you are inside nor should you let it. So in answer to your question yes I see
all ages from 18 - 80 <smiles>
Q) I am new to this and have no experience can you help?
A) Of course, we are all new to this at some stage or another and taking those
first nervous steps into a territory you have only fantasised about is a very
big leap into the unknown, this is why I invest my time prior to play to discuss
safety, implements to be used, how to use and where to place the strokes correctly. Bear
in mind though our first session will never go as you fantasised, as we are
just getting to know each other and gaining trust.
Q) I am new and I don't want marks but want
a really hard spanking/caning/tawse?
A) Well, if you don't want marks then you aren't going to get it
really hard, due to the amount of pressure one needs to use the hand
you will inevitably
get some mottling, as for the cane if you want this delivered hard then obviously
you will be left with purple weal's, again if the tawse is used full force
then you will be left with bruising. It is nye on impossible to give you a
hard
spanking etc: without it marking you in some way. My advice is start off gently
ease yourself into play, you will build up a resistance anyway but DON'T go
into it with the idea you want it as hard as possible because marking, bruising
will happen. Once again it also depends on the person administering the punishment
and what you have said to them. Please think about this seriously and what
you want to gain from your first experience.
Q) I am new to the scene and would like feature
in one of your shoots within a safe environment
as a spanking model?
A) I would like to stress at this point I prefer to use people who
are offay within the scene and know what to expect plus you should
be able to role play
(it is advisable to pay at least three visits to me so that I can assess your
suitability for roles) and have at least a few outfit changes. You may be asked
to contribute towards Tops fees. Please E
mail for
further information and application form. Please be aware if you want
to appear so that you can bring your own scenario/role play into it, this will
not happen. I run to strict guidelines and rules, some may have been sent from
other scene minded people as an outline but most certainly not to make their
fantasy come true. If you want this to happen then bear in mind the costs involved
that you would have to pay (like I do everytime); studio hire, players fees,
players travel expenses, players food & refreshments, camera people, any
outfits required, camera/lighting equipment hire and editing costs. I do not
like players
to
be covered in tattoos
nor piercings, in essence I like you to look like the person next door this
way you will fit into a variety of roles/scenarios we have planned. You may
also want to check out www.blackpanthermediaproductions.com/work.htm
FYI it does take a considerable amount of organizing, we enjoy doing these
shoots and contrary to belief it takes at least 5 years to recoop costs of
a large shoot, thus we don't want people applying if you can't stand the pace,
can't have any part of your body shown or are out for a freebie with other
scene players. I actually do organize events
for you to play with other scene folk!! You will be asked for two forms of
identification and sign a model release this is following strict guidelines
for USC2257. All material is then held, owned and copyright to Shan Van (UK)
Ltd.
Q) I have seen your sample clips of DVD's are
these available in your Members Area?
A) As it quite clearly states these are "taken from DVD's",
if they were in my Members' Area available to download then I would
call them VOD not
DVD, a DVD is just that a Disk you order for personal viewing using your
own DVD player or computer. Visit www.shanvanmediaproductions.com for
a full list of titles, description of contents, prices and special offers
or package deals. If
mailing your order ensure you add the correct shipping charges!! You can
view individual clips and exclusive clips at my
studio.
Q) Do you have a school desk?
A) Yes, you can see it on some of the pictures but to clarify, it is
one of the wrought iron based ones with the tip up seat and brass inkwell.
(I am lead to believe this is worth more than the desk!!) Very good for bending
over too <grins>
Q) Do you have a schoolroom?
A) Unfortunately, I do not as I use my own house so the desk is
moved into a suitable position. For me it is a head thing
anyway so I actually relate the design of a room in my head to
a particular scene, irrelevant of
what is about me, using your imagination can sometimes be more effective
than the surroundings because in your mind you can determine what
you want the setting
to look like and not have a set that isn't what you would expect.
Q) Will I have to do lines?
A) Dependant upon the reason you have been sent to see me, I shall deem whether
you will do lines or I may ask you to sit (if you can) a test!
Q) Do you wear your gown and Mortar Board for the Head Mistress role?
A) If you have requested to come and see me in that role play then yes I
can if you inform me prior, it sometimes helps you to get your head into
it but do expect you to be in the correct attire too. I will only use
implements that I feel suit the situation i.e. HM would be ruler, cane, plimsoll,
tawse the type of implements that would have been used.
Q) I am a male who likes to dress as an adult
schoolgirl, do you cater for this?
A) <smiles> of course I do, you are not alone in this fact
you can dress how you want. If you want the adult schoolgirl outfit
to be used as a form of punishment
and humiliation to be incorporated that is not a problem at all. If you want
to wear ladies underwear this is also ok.
Q) I want to visit as your nephew will you
take me over your knee naked?
A) You can visit Aunty Shan but no I will definitely not have you undressed
this doesn't work within a domestic scene of Aunty/nephew for me at all.
Q) I would like to be sub-servient to you?
A) I DO NOT practice this in a 1-2-1 session as I believe it to be part of
BDSM, the Slave/servant type thing and as I have already stated this is not
what
spanking/C.P
is about.
Q) Can I video/photograph/record our session?
A) Unfortunately, as this conflicts with my other interests I have to say
NO due to copyright, media exposure and model releases with regard to 18
USC 2257 plus I produce all my own material anyway.
I also have a very reliable photographer/videographer namely my husband!
I can take photographs (no video footage) of your bottom using my own camera
(these
will be for
your own personal use)
throughout or at the end of the session;
however, these will not show any pictures of me. I will then put
onto a disk or print out for you; the cost for this service
is
£15 payable on the day to cover;
electricity, printer cartridges, paper or disk and my time. I WILL NOT film
our session even if it is for your own personal use! MOBILE PHONES must be
left in your car or switched off prior to play, anyone found to be using
a mobile phone to record/photograph or video our session may find they leave
with it in pieces after I have caned them and then stood on the phone!!
Q) Do you use humiliation?
A) I use a mild form if the need arises within role play
that is to say, I will NOT ask you to crawl on all fours
or expect you to kneel at my feet nor
will I engage in anything that can be construed as sexual, I do not need
anyone to do my housework/garden or decorating etc: etc:
Q) Do you Travel?
A) NO, I accommodate within a safe, discreet environment,
my location details can be found under "Location" section,
full directions will be sent once your appointment is confirmed. I
DO NOT do out calls, visit you in a hotel or B&B
so please do not enquire, I offer you a safe place to
play
if you
can not visit here then I will not entertain meeting
you anywhere else!
Q) Do you provide clothing for clients?
A) I have a site
that
I sell
some clearance authentic
school uniforms - buy on line @ www.thevsfinishingschool.com. If
you would like me to locate anything for you prior to a visit (for discretionary
purposes) I will endeavour to do so, just let me know what you want, naturally
these can be left with me for future visits so as not to lead to any embarrassing
discovery.
Please note I do not offer a cross-dressing service, you may dress as a
female for
our session by all means but I haven't the room to offer cross-dressing
facilities, most CDs/TVs, adult schoolgirls bring their own outfits along
and change
once here.
Q)
I paid for a Spanking DVD through your shop and it hasn't
arrived within the 48 hours?
A) Please be aware if you order over a weekend I can't get it in the post till
the Monday. In most cases they are posted out within this time frame, I post
all UK orders via Recorded delivery any over seas orders are posted via Airsure
(where applicable otherwise International Signed for) with a tracking number
which can be supplied if asked for. The other instances are if I am away or
my shop hoster is away then I will not receive the orders until I return then
they are posted out as soon as.
Q) I have one of your Spanking DVDs but the
quality is poor?
A) Upon Exchanging E mails with this person, I found out they had actually
purchased one of MY dvds from a PIRATE who
has obviously no balls to contact me and become a licensed seller or an affiliate.
THUS yes, it will affect you the end user because you are receiving inferior
quality goods that have been copied over and over again. I am afraid the only
way to stop such misuse and dishonesty is for people such as the guy who E
mailed me in the first instant to "NAME & SHAME" companies who
have no morals within the Spanking/CP scene. Who feel they can rip off the
smaller people, the ones who are into the scene sincerely and through doing
these DVD's and websites allow other spanky's to be involved in appearing in
them to give back a sense of what we all enjoy to our small community. SO PLEASE
IF YOU HAVE PURCHASED ONE OF MY DVD's FROM ELSEWHERE (who is not a named seller)
let me know and I will take the necessary steps.
Q) Can I get a full photo set from you when
I visit?
A) As stated at the top, Yes If you advise me before your visit, letting me
know which sets you are interested in, I will have a Multi Media Disk ready
for you containing photo sets and a few clips which can be played in your PC
and on the newer DVD players. As above I accept cash or cheque.
Q) What information is held about me?
A) If you have contacted me via E mail I do log down your E mail address and
a few details these are used to help me identify you when you arrive, when
contact is made on the day of your appointment via telephone I log your number
into my phone to aid me in your future
calls. NON of this is made public and I will never use any of this information
against you or pass onto a third party. As per Data Protection Act 1998.
Discretion on my part is assured. YOUR E-MAIL address will never be divulged
or CC to anyone else, when sending & replying to people you will ONLY receive
an individual E mail from myself. Personally I can't abide people who send
those E mails to you with everyone else's addresses cc'd on it, I think it
is very indiscreet, definitely not safe and most of all very selfish of the
sender to advertise your own personal E mail without your permission.
Q) When I have visited and am a bit more confident
how do I find like minded people?
A) My answer to this is you can meet some very nice people within the scene
via the internet, spanking parties, events, fetish fairs, contact magazines
and newsletters. Exchange E mails, get to know them via that medium ask for
photographs
and
offer yours
(these should be *vanilla), exchange telephone calls. Upon your first
meet, I suggest you choose somewhere public (a pub, shopping centre) anywhere
where there are a few people about, also have someone you can call or who will
call you 10 mins after your arrival time so they know you are ok, I
know all this sounds very much on the cautious side but remember it is your
life; both parties should do this and respect each other for doing so. Please
bear in mind you are both human beings of the same race if you don't want to
do anything YOU have the right to say no, if the person you meet ignores this
then they should not be into the scene at all. If you are a bottom by nature
be aware of how far you want to go and what you want out of the scene/role
play tell the Top, you still have the right to say NO, you are not a doormat
to be stamped upon. If you are a Top respect the bottom, it is a big
step for them, listen and watch their reactions, movements and breathing throughout
play.
PLEASE NOTE I AM NOT A DATING AGENCY and NO
I DO NOT KNOW MILLIONS OF LADIES INTO THE SCENE WHO ARE LOOKING FOR
LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS. ALSO NOTE I DO KNOW OF OTHER PROFESSIONAL
LADIES AND IF I HAVE MET AND PLAYED WITH THEM THEN THERE WILL A BANNER
LINK IN MY LINKS SECTION FOR YOU TO CONTACT THEM, I DO NOT ADVERTISE
ANYONE I HAVE NOT MET PERSONALLY, AS I OFFER A SPANKING SERVICE I
AM NOT THE ORACLE ON ALL THE PROS IN THE SCENE!! AS SUCH IT IS VERY
IMPERTINENT TO ASK.
You can place a free advert in the personals section at Black
Panther Media Productions the onus is on you to give them correct
information and contact details. They are not held responsible for
any contacts/lack
of contacts you may get from advertising.
Q) Do you use a safeword?
A) Within this scene I do not think a safe word is necessary; as we are playing
by mutual respect, consent, for fun and enjoyment not in a BDSM environment
where such words are used due to the nature of play! I
also believe that a Top should be aware of how hard they are and paying attention
to the
bottom
front of them, literally. In my capacity as a Top I am always aware
of how the bottom looks, i.e. marks appearing, bruising, lumping thus if I
feel necessary I will slow down the play or stop it completely. If a bottom
asks you to stop then that is what happens, at the end of the day you have
not signed over total control just consented to doing what you mutually enjoy.
Just remember that if someone says NO within play and they carry on that is
ABUSE and as such illegal! Also remember as a Top you need to ensure your own
safety when playing with someone for the first time!
Q) Do you administer the cane/tawse/strap on the hands?
A) I prefer not to, I don't
mind giving it at your own discretion but I will ask you to sign a contract
prior to state you are consenting this is due to the amount of small bones
that are in the hands and fingers which could easily be broken now I am sure
you wouldn't want that to happen and I most certainly wouldn't, not only that
if you use your hands to make a living i.e using a computer it wouldn't be
ideal now would it! To be honest it
is purely a bottom related fetish that I have, I adore bottoms there shape,
their
texture,
the
natural curves and roundness... jeez, am losing it again !!
Q) Do you cyber spank?
A) No, I don't, I don't feel inclined to do so and as I play in r/l most days
there is no need for me to, besides the real thing is a lot better than both
parties attempting to use their heads when neither one knows what the other
is really thinking or doing on the other end of a keyboard! When in a 1-2-1
at least you have the actions, the facial expressions, the bodily reactions
to aid you in your quest. Same as I don't like E mails from people who
obviously just want to interact in that way, without coming to see me it is
a waste of your time and my time as I will not do this.
Q) What you are doing is tantamount to prostitution?
A) It is a very naive (or jealous) person to say this, the english definition
of prostitution is "someone who receives payment for services" That
being said and written, I say the same about yourself at some time in your
life you will have paid or been paid by some other person for a service. i.e.
a plumber, solicitor, gas board, electricity board, ice cream man, etc: etc:
you pay them all for the service they offer you, therefore they are all prostitutes
!!!
Q)
Does HM use the terminology bum or bottom?
A) MOST definitely bottom, I do not use bum, arse or ass at all and tend to find
these are a male trait now there's a little insight for you, now you can tell
when you are on websites or exchanging E mails with someone that they are male
if they use these words as a terminology for a bottom. Females as a rule don't
like any part of the anatomy referred to in a vulgar way, yes we all know it
appeals to males but women are far less course. I also like posterior or derriere
when referring to a bottom as these are not vulgar words.
MY
PERSONAL DEFINITIONS
Spanking/C.P. -
Top/Bottom or Switch = Both parties mutually respect the
other, each can stop play at any time they wish, there is
no need of a safeword as a Top should be aware of the bottom
in front of them. Both have equal control. Role-play
is normally involved in this type of play i.e. adult schoolie/HM,
Uncle/niece, Aunty/nephew but not always, it is where your
head's at that counts. Clothing in this scene plays
an important part for the players.
BDSM -
Dom/Domme, Submissive or Switch = Both parties mutually respect
one another, there is a great amount of trust due to the
restrictions in the scene, parties involved should have met
prior and discussed how they want the session to go. A Safe
word should be applied to all play. Submissive still has
a modicum
of control in that they have only handed over a margin
of control and can stop play with use of their safe word
at any time. Dom/Dommes have the same right, they take
the control but are always aware of the submissive, their
safety and needs. Leather, rubber, latex, PVC part nudity
etc; play an important role in this scene as does the need
for a submissive to be collared by her Dom/Domme. This type
of play should be entered into with caution, especially with
someone you have never met before, I would suggest you exchange
Emails first then arrange to meet somewhere public as you
may not get on and the would mean a disasterous encounter.
I do not offer this type of service within my 1-2-1 bookings.
S/M -
Master/Mistress and Slave = Slave has given over total control
to their Master/Mistress, for them to do as they please within
a safe, sane environment, determined by both parties upon
entering into such an agreement. Both have submitted
to this type of relationship and are committed to acting
out an SM scenes they feel work for them at the time. Again
this should not be entered into lightly, you need to think
about what will be required of you and most of all talk to
your owner. I do not offer this type of service
within my 1-2-1 bookings.
ALL This type of play should be entered into
with an open mind ensuring you feel safe, know that you can trust
the other person to use implements safely and most of all know when
to stop. If you don't feel safe or any element of mistrust then simply
DON'T be coerced into play!
*Vanilla - is what people into the
scene call others who are not or the way you dress i.e vanilla =
normal everyday clothes.
**Where a deposit is requested be it for 1-2-1 sessions or parties
this is non-refundable and must be paid at least 14 days prior to
confirm.
| *If spending the whole day with Miss
Shanelle, this will involve chatting, chores and spanking/C.P
incorporated at intervals as I see fit, I DO NOT expect
you to act up or brat just to get punished as this will
happen when I decide. Any attempt to mess about will end
up with you spending time in the corner. If you are visiting
Miss by public transport then please note this will be
incoporated into the times above i.e if I am collecting
you from the station you will be there for 9.30am and you
will be taken back at 2.30pm. Due to this being an all
day event a deposit of 50% is required to confirm your
booking, if not received upon booking I will just deem
that you do not want the day and book other people in. |
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